Being Alone Hurts, But Only Thanks To Pain Can You Heal Yourself

Although it may be a little scary at first, by being alone we can learn many things about ourselves, bet on our well-being and grow as people

Being alone can be painful. Suddenly, you have no one around you who can accompany you on that hard path that you are traveling. Why has everyone left? Why has life left you alone? Loneliness is frowned upon. It is often considered unsuccessful. However, sometimes we have no choice but to experience it, especially when we have gone through a rough patch.

However, although we see her as a great enemy, the truth is that she can be the best of our blessings. Because being alone hurts, but it heals.

Being alone will help you heal the wounds

Sometimes life invites you to be alone so that you can stop, listen to yourself and know where you should go now.

Sometimes we get lost along the way, we start to be unhappy and suffering becomes very present in our day to day life. This, in the long run, does not disappear and there comes a time when we cannot take it anymore.

It doesn’t matter what we’re going through. We tend to believe that problems lie on the outside; however, the solution lies within us.

Therefore, experiencing loneliness is an excellent opportunity to reconnect with ourselves, to listen to ourselves again and discover how to improve our existence.

But, yes, we do not lament of loneliness. It is true that at first we will tend to victimhood, to “why is this happening to me?”, “I don’t deserve it”.

However, this has to end so that we can dedicate time to ourselves, think only of the person we are, pamper ourselves and love each other very much.

Thus we will discover that no one can solve what we are going through. Nobody but ourselves.

Loneliness invites you to become independent

Being alone is an excellent invitation for all those people who suffer some kind of dependence on others, such as dependence on their partner and even in other types of relationships.

We cannot spend our whole lives leaving the relay of our happiness to people who will end up disappointing us and doing us a lot of harm.

It is important that we learn to be responsible and that we realize that  being well today does not depend on the emotional state of others, but on ourselves.

Only in this way can we manage our emotions, have a certain balance and feel good without always having to look out.

At the end of the day, we are solely responsible for how we feel and, if we allow other people to acquire this power, then we are doing a lot of wrong things.

We do not depend on anyone. Loneliness scares us, but sometimes it is good to be aware of this. People come and go, some hurt you, others mark you. However,  the person who will never abandon us is in us.

Being alone hurts

Although we consider loneliness as a possibility of healing, the truth is that being alone is going to hurt, a lot. You will be tempted to go back, to return to your comfort zone, but things will not be as easy as before.

This happens because you have taken a huge step that, although painful, is very necessary. Loneliness awaits you to give you the possibility to mature, to grow, to improve yourself.

Now you know what it is to take responsibility for your happiness and wow! It’s not that easy, is it?

When you put the focus on yourself, you start to see that you deserve things, you start to feel bad for considering this selfish, but this is what you need.

Being aware that someone does not leave you, constantly pleasing others, doing things because, otherwise, you think you will be left alone, is a serious mistake.

You are important. You deserve to think of yourself. It is time to stop sacrificing so much time thinking about how to be better for others, so that they accept you and they can love you.

Give up victimhood and take control of your life. You have the power and the will to do it. Do not waste time.